{"id":378,"date":"2011-07-17T12:36:06","date_gmt":"2011-07-17T19:36:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kagan.mactane.org\/blog\/?p=378"},"modified":"2015-08-16T15:25:06","modified_gmt":"2015-08-16T22:25:06","slug":"how-many-identites-does-a-single-person-have","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kagan.mactane.org\/blog\/2011\/07\/17\/how-many-identites-does-a-single-person-have\/","title":{"rendered":"How Many Identities Does a Single Person Have?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>(This was <a href=\"https:\/\/plus.google.com\/111672781782852561065\/posts\/XK7QfEHyZbk\">originally posted on Google+ itself<\/a>. I&#8217;m also keeping it here, for easy reference.)<\/p>\n<p>A friend of mine notes that one of the problems of the current Google+ &#8220;real names policy&#8221; is that &#8220;Google is attempting to deal with (I&#8217;m assuming) manufacturing a community of 1-to-1 RL presence-to-online presence&#8221;&nbsp;&mdash; in particular, he says that while he does have questions about <em>how<\/em> Google is attempting to do this, he also has a lot of respect for the fact that they are <em>trying<\/em>&nbsp;to.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m not so sure that I do. Partly because I&#8217;m not convinced that there&#8217;s any value in creating a community of 1-to-1 real-life presence to online&nbsp;presence.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s partly because I&#8217;m not convinced that there&#8217;s <em>any such thing<\/em> as a 1-to-1 correspondence between <strong>real-life presence and real-life presence<\/strong>. I mean, seriously, are you the same person at work as you are when you&#8217;re down at the bar with friends? As when you&#8217;re having dinner in a nice restaurant with your lover? As when you&#8217;re in bed with him or&nbsp;her?<\/p>\n<p>The idea of a 1-to-1 correspondence between real life presence and online presence is based on the idea that there&#8217;s a 1-to-1 correspondence between identities (personalities) and physical bodies. <strong><em>That idea is wrong.<\/em><\/strong> We all shift identities based on who we&#8217;re interacting with and what situation we&#8217;re in. That&#8217;s part of why we even shift our names based on&nbsp;that:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>My fianc&eacute;e calls me &#8220;Darling&#8221;, &#8220;Sweetheart&#8221;, &#8220;Dear&#8221;, &#8220;Love&#8221;, or &#8220;Honey&#8221;, according to her whim at the time. (We like variety, and we like to avoid getting too canalized to one particular term of endearment.)<\/li>\n<li>My co-workers usually call me Kagan.<\/li>\n<li>My friends usually call me Kai.<\/li>\n<li>My siblings usually call me Kai, but my brother sometimes calls me &#8220;brother&#8221; or &#8220;bro&#8221;&nbsp;&mdash; and, truth be told, I <em>like<\/em> this occasional familiarity.<\/li>\n<li>Sales people and waitrons and so on call me &#8220;Sir&#8221;. And this <em>is not<\/em> an outlying data point, because I answer to it, and I expect them to call me by this name. We all consider it right and proper.<\/li>\n<li>Telemarketers and professional service people (bankers and whatnot) would do well to call me &#8220;Mister MacTane&#8221;. They often presume that they can call me &#8220;Kagan&#8221;&nbsp;&mdash; but this is a mistake on their part, because they are presuming a level of familiarity which (unlike my brother) they have not earned and do not deserve.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>All of these different names, and different reactions to them, are signs that indicate that <strong>I enact different identities in different contexts<\/strong>. We all&nbsp;do.<\/p>\n<p>And a social network that tries to straitjacket me into a single identity is doomed to omit huge chunks of who I really am. In so doing, it fails to serve my needs. It makes it harder for me to engage with the network at all&#8230; which makes it much more likely that I&#8217;ll&nbsp;leave.<\/p>\n<p>I understand that Facebook is very deliberately built to enforce a single-identity model, because (as I&#8217;ve <a href=\"https:\/\/kagan.mactane.org\/blog\/2010\/05\/15\/facebook-and-privacy\/\">posted here before<\/a>) <a href=\"http:\/\/michaelzimmer.org\/2010\/05\/14\/facebooks-zuckerberg-having-two-identities-for-yourself-is-an-example-of-a-lack-of-integrity\/\">Mark Zuckerberg actually believes<\/a> that &#8220;[h]aving two identities for yourself is an example of a lack of integrity.&#8221; But Google doesn&#8217;t have to subscribe to Zuckerberg&#8217;s&nbsp;delusion.<\/p>\n<p>Sadly, I see little hope that they&#8217;ll deviate from the &#8220;one physical body, one online identity&#8221; model that Google+ currently tries to operate under (and can never successfully enforce without causing even more&nbsp;problems).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(This was originally posted on Google+ itself. I&#8217;m also keeping it here, for easy reference.) 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